Don’t be a victim! Stop the abuse!

July 42010

An animated story of a turning point in my life. This video request is long overdue.
It was requested by subscribers quite a while ago that I make and upload this. I started in Feb. but the situation in life got better (thank god) and I never had time to complete it. Now that it is done I must upload an updated version of “my story” as my life has taken a much needed change for the better.
This is a very serious clip. I ask of you, if you are a victim of abuse, please, PLEASE, go to this site:
http://www.ndvh.org/
Break the silence, make the call!
Resources:
Statistics: Stats Canada.
Songs: Mao – Angelic Butterfly; Dixie Chicks – Make nice
If you are unable to hear me in the beginning here is what I said:
It was only six months ago
I had a normal life
normal chores normal house and a place to rest my head
but then
in one night
everything changed
One guy
One mistake
Months of tears
I took up my roots
I packed all my memories
I packed all my dreams
My goals my passions and I moved away
My dad arrived, we packed the truck. I moved two buildings over.
he bought me a sofa, it was my new bed.
for 2 months all my dreams, all my nightmares were absorbed by those sofa cushions
I worked hard, I saved everything. Now I have a new bed a new wardrobe and a new begginning
But my life, it continues to change.
I feel as though I were on a bike.
And I climbed to the top of the highest hill.
I set up camp, I became comfortable.
And one day a loving friend
A trusted partner, took it upon himself to push me down that hill on my bike
And before i knew it I was flying down that hill I had worked so hard to climb.
My bike wobbled unsteadily and I learned too late that I did not have brakes.
There was no more I could do than to hold onto my handles and pray that I’d make it to the bottom without crashing. I’m still falling.
But I know if I make it to the bottom. I will never again climb to the top. The risk is far too great that I’ll only get pushed down once more.
Instead if I survive I will bike far away from my past and never look back.
It was only six months ago.
If you were unable to read the stats in the video they are listed below:

We fought for the right to vote
Only we stopped short
Many are abused, too many!
Enough is enough!
Now is the time to speak up!

On average 182 females were killed every year in Canada.
27 – husband
20 – common-law partner
15 – divorced or separated husband

76% of women sought refuge in shelters across Canada in 2004.

Of those who report the abuse:
70% – experience physical abuse.
50% – experience threats
46% – experience financial abuse
31% – experience harassment
27% – experience sexual abuse.

40% of these women had been in a shelter the previous year.
38% had been there 2-4 times.
10% five times or more!

Emotional abuse IS abuse!

November 25th is the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women.

DON’T be a victim!
Speak out!

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Intimate Partner Violence on College Campuses PSA

July 42010

This video was created for a class project in FCM 8420 Epidemiology at the University of Missouri, Columbia, Spring 2010. Every 9 seconds a woman is battered in the United States (National Statistics, 2010). One out of four women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime (National Statistics, 2010). Studies conducted by the Surgeon Generals office reveal that domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women between the ages of 15 and 44, which is more common than automobile accidents, muggings, and cancer deaths combined (National Statistics, 2010). When alcohol or drugs are involved, the risk of severity and lethality of intimate violence increases (Sharps et al., 2003). Intimate partner violence (IPV) is a serious and ongoing issue on college campuses and sufficient evidence regarding the effectiveness of counseling for intimate partner violence is lacking (Rhodes & Levinson, 2003). In order to shed some light on this sensitive topic, our video focuses on the various types of IPV as well as highlights some information on places victims of IPV can go.
Although the physical and sexual forms of IPV are more widespread and recognizable, emotional IPV is another form that occurs. The duration or frequency of IPV can vary as well as the severity, but regardless of the number of incidences or duration, no one should ever have to experience any form of IPV.
All forms of IPV are preventable. Due to the overwhelming prevalence of IPV as a cause of injury to women, counselors on college campuses must be trained to understand the physical effects of abuse, along with the mental and emotional effects that are occurring. All of these factors regarding IPV must be examined for intervention and treatment to be effective.
At the University of Missouri, the Relationship and Sexual Violence Prevention (RSVP) Center is an education and resource service for Mizzous students. RSVP Peer Educators, Greek Advocates, Stronger Together Against Relationship & Sexual Violence (STARS), and Men Against Relationship & Sexual Violence (MARS) are student organizations that help spearhead the efforts of RSVP. Depending on the need of the victim, RSVP can help victims of IPV seek the appropriate avenues of treatment, which may include: the MU Counseling Center, The Shelter, The Columbia Police Department, Attorneys on the MU campus, and the Student Conduct Office.
References

Daniels, K. (2005). Intimate Partner Violence and Depression: A Deadly Comorbidity. Journal of Psychosocial Nursing and Mental Health Services. 43(1), 44-51.

Forke, C.M, Myers, R.K., Catallozzi, M., & Schwarz, D.F. (2008). Relationship Violence Among Female and Male College Undergraduate Students. Arch Pediatrics Adolescent Medical, 162(7), 634-641

Hove, M.C., Parkhill, M.R., Neighbors, C., McConchie, J.M., Fossos, N. (2010). Alcohol Consumption and Intimate Partner Violence Perpetration among College Students: The Role of Self-Determination. Journal of Studies on Alcohol or Drugs. 71(1). 78-85.

Intimate Partner Violence Can Lead to Serious Injury. Retrieved April 28th, 2010 from the Centers for Disease Control: http://www.cdc.gov/Features/IntimatePartnerViolence/

National Statistics. Retrieved April 26th, 2010 from the Partnership Against Domestic Violence:
http://www.padv.org/statistics.aspx

Nicolaidis, C., McFarland, B., Curry, M., Gerrity, M. (2009). Differences in Physical and Mental Health Symptoms and Mental Health Utilization Associated With Intimate-Partner Violence Versus Childhood Abuse. Psychosomatics. 50(4), 340-346.

Rhondes, K.V., Levinson, W. (2003). Interventions for Intimate Partner Violence Against Women: Clinical Applications. Journal of American Medical Association. 289(5). 601-605.

Saltzman L.E., Fanslow J.L., McMahon P.M., Shelley G.A. (2002). Intimate partner violence surveillance: uniform definitions and recommended data elements, version 1.0. Atlanta (GA): Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Center for Injury Prevention and Control. Available from the Centers for Disease Control: http://www.cdc.gov/ncipc/pubres/ipv_surveillance/intimate.htm

Stein, A., Tran, G., Fisher, B. (2009). Intimate Partner Violence Experience and Expectations Among College Women in Dating Relationships: Implications for Behavioral Interventions. Violence and Victims. 24(2). 152-162.

Music Hope by Kendra Springer

Created by Fiona Asigbee, Mary-Claire Howe, and Lindsay Parsons

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STOP DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TODAY!

June 302010

THIS VIDEO DOES HAVE SOME GRAPHIC PICTURES… BUT ITS REALITY! I WAS ABUSED BY AN EX FOR ALMOST 2 YRS I CAN SO RELATE TO THIS VIDEO. PLZ IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS ABUSED.. GET HELP! SONG USED WAS.. STUPID BOY BY KEITH URBAN!!!! LETS STOP DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TODAY!

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Domestic abuse New Zealand

June 302010

Domestic abuse is on the increase in New Zealand and so is the level of violence involved.
That is worrying enough for those who help the victims, but most alarming, they say, is a rise in the use of strangulation.
It is a violent act where just seconds can mean the difference between life and a horrific death.
One woman or child is killed every 12-and-a-half days in New Zealand as the result of domestic violence.
Jill Proudfoot from victim’s refuge Shine (Safer Homes in NZ Everyday) says strangulation is basically power display.
“It’s saying I could kill you if I want to. Whenever you attack a person’s throat you’re saying I could kill you,” says Proudfoot.
Two recent high profile murder cases in New Zealand involved strangulation.
Nai Yin Xue literally squeezed the life out of his wife and just days before Clayton Weatherston killed and mutilated Sophie Elliot, her mother, Lesley Elliott, says he had held his arm around her throat.
Annette Gillespie from Women’s Refuge says sometimes women do not understand the significance of strangulation and that it is in fact an attempt to kill.
Proudfoot says the fact that Weatherston put his arm across Elliott’s throat was a real warning sign.
The strangulation statistics make for disturbing reading.
There are no visible injuries 90% of the time, so it is hard for a victim to prove what has happened.
In 90% of cases there has been a history of domestic violence and in 99% of the cases, those who resort to using strangulation, are men.
Despite the dangers, many stay with their abuser, even though it might lead to more terrifying consequences.
“I had one woman say to me at least while I’m living with him I know where he is,” says Proudfoot.
ONE News spoke to a woman who finally found the courage to leave her abusive partner.
She says he threw her into a doorway, pushed her on to the ground and when she had the chance to run, he chased her through the house.
She says it filled her days with terror. Worst of all she says, all this happened right in front of their children.
“He ended up pushing me on top of my then four-year-old daughter,” says the victim.
After two decades of intense psychological abuse, her husband had started getting physical.
“I knew I had to get out for me and then I would fight for my children even if I had to walk out the door without them,” says the woman.
She says she used to be one of those women who did not have the courage to leave.
“Even if a woman thinks she’s in an abusive situation, even if she’s doubting herself, (she needs) to talk to somebody. I left it way too late,” she says.
She hopes her story will help others escape the violence, too.

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The New Agenda: Violence Against Women Forum, Part 2 (04.18.09)

June 302010

The New Agenda’s Violence Against Women Forum, April 18, 2009 at the Benjamin Hotel, New York. Panelists include: Karen Cheeks-Lomax Executive Director, My Sister’s Place Westchester; Rosemonde Pierre-Louis Manhattan Deputy Borough President; Leslie Crocker Snyder Retired Justice, New York Supreme Court; and Irene Weiser Executive Director, StopFamilyViolence.org.

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Rihanna’s police pictures of real bruises.(EXCLUSIVE)

June 252010

for more pics goto…

http://p.rhap.com/Tra.26587382

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RAPP

June 252010

The Center Against Domestic Violence, one of the first organizations to provide shelter from violence at home, now shelters 1,000 women and children and works with 30,000 teens to prevent relationship abuse each year.

video supplied by fountainhead.com

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Domestic Violence vid How To Save A Life

June 202010

This is a vid i made for a project in order to raise awareness and knowledge around domestic violence and help stop it even if it’s only a lttle bit.Please rate, comment, and spread the word on this vid. I don’t own the song by the Fray or any of the pictures that i used. This video was made with good intentions so please don’t delete or flag it due to copywrite laws. please don’t sue me!! Also i’m going to make another amv soon so be on the look out. Stop all the raping, death,sexual, emotional, and phisical abuse.

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Husband finds better solution to false 498a-kills four of wife’s family

June 202010

If indian government will not wake up this will be a solution for innocent people to protect themselves from false 498A

Join the Social Activism to save the crumbling indian family system and fight against gender biased indian draconian laws
Visit to join
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily/
http://www.saveindianfamily.org
http://498a.org
http://www.498a.org.in/
http://498a.co.in/
http://498amisuse.wordpress.com/2010/02/17/498amisuse-judgements/

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Domestic Violence: Tila Tequila & Shawne Merriman

June 202010

Don’t start none, won’t be none.

Twitter folks, you read the rant…this is for the non-twitter folks who want to also.

Domestic abuse isn’t funny. Nor is it cute. Don’t put yourself out there to be the poster child when someone can REALLY stand in that place and get help.

twitter.com/missjia.com
www.missjia.com

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