Comments on: Family court custody question I had already posted this question but I guess I didnt put enough info, plz help http://www.menagainstrape.org/center-against-domestic-violence/family-court-custody-question-i-had-already-posted-this-question-but-i-guess-i-didnt-put-enough-info-plz-help Tue, 07 Feb 2012 09:22:59 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: hheaterm21 http://www.menagainstrape.org/center-against-domestic-violence/family-court-custody-question-i-had-already-posted-this-question-but-i-guess-i-didnt-put-enough-info-plz-help/comment-page-1#comment-3751 hheaterm21 Wed, 03 Mar 2010 03:05:59 +0000 http://www.menagainstrape.org/center-against-domestic-violence/family-court-custody-question-i-had-already-posted-this-question-but-i-guess-i-didnt-put-enough-info-plz-help#comment-3751 Well you have many many options. I grew up with a mother like yours that didnt really pay any attention to me due to drinking and drugs but there is hope.! First off your mom may be upset with you, but one thing you could do is call your local hospital and see what you need to do about getting your mom committed to a mental health ward. I work at one of those now and its not all mental health people, that are a lot of people that are there with an addictions as well. Maybe if you can get her to go there and get help and complete treatment and she can see what she is doing to your family maybe she can change and things can be different in the long run. ( You would just need to tell the hospital/dr that she has made comments about being suicidal, and has addictions to drinking/drugs. As far as living with your cousin that would have to go through the courts, but every state is different and every state has different rules. If you were to call DHS and explain your situation they could help you. I know lots of people are scared about going into foster homes and having to change there whole life, But honestly think about it.. It would give you someone to give you the things you need to leave and let you be the kid you are ( young adult) I know its hard considering you have taken care of yourself for some part of your life but honestly its the best thing to do. I didnt do that I took the other path and started working and tried to stay out of the foster business and now i am 23 yrs old and im exhausted. I have worked and worked and worked, completed hs and have had 3 jobs at once most of my life. at your age you dont want to start living life as an adult it will hurt you in the long run. You can also call, churches, or shelters and stay there, As of know if you left home without permission you would be considered a run away. I am not sure were you live but the streets would not be giving you the life you deserve. My honest answer is to seek help from the people and resources you have to use around you. Check into DHS, and your local hospital. And or just ask a councelor at your school. I know this is a scary time for you and your sisters, but dont bring yourself down. Be a role model for your sister and point her in the right direction. And as far as the drinking. Try as hard as you can not to go down that path, You see what kind of life you have from your mothers drinking and what it has done to her, Dont do it to yourself your way better then that.<br><b>References : </b><br> Well you have many many options. I grew up with a mother like yours that didnt really pay any attention to me due to drinking and drugs but there is hope.! First off your mom may be upset with you, but one thing you could do is call your local hospital and see what you need to do about getting your mom committed to a mental health ward. I work at one of those now and its not all mental health people, that are a lot of people that are there with an addictions as well. Maybe if you can get her to go there and get help and complete treatment and she can see what she is doing to your family maybe she can change and things can be different in the long run. ( You would just need to tell the hospital/dr that she has made comments about being suicidal, and has addictions to drinking/drugs. As far as living with your cousin that would have to go through the courts, but every state is different and every state has different rules. If you were to call DHS and explain your situation they could help you. I know lots of people are scared about going into foster homes and having to change there whole life, But honestly think about it.. It would give you someone to give you the things you need to leave and let you be the kid you are ( young adult) I know its hard considering you have taken care of yourself for some part of your life but honestly its the best thing to do. I didnt do that I took the other path and started working and tried to stay out of the foster business and now i am 23 yrs old and im exhausted. I have worked and worked and worked, completed hs and have had 3 jobs at once most of my life. at your age you dont want to start living life as an adult it will hurt you in the long run. You can also call, churches, or shelters and stay there, As of know if you left home without permission you would be considered a run away. I am not sure were you live but the streets would not be giving you the life you deserve. My honest answer is to seek help from the people and resources you have to use around you. Check into DHS, and your local hospital. And or just ask a councelor at your school. I know this is a scary time for you and your sisters, but dont bring yourself down. Be a role model for your sister and point her in the right direction. And as far as the drinking. Try as hard as you can not to go down that path, You see what kind of life you have from your mothers drinking and what it has done to her, Dont do it to yourself your way better then that.
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]]> By: Linsito http://www.menagainstrape.org/center-against-domestic-violence/family-court-custody-question-i-had-already-posted-this-question-but-i-guess-i-didnt-put-enough-info-plz-help/comment-page-1#comment-3750 Linsito Wed, 03 Mar 2010 02:33:59 +0000 http://www.menagainstrape.org/center-against-domestic-violence/family-court-custody-question-i-had-already-posted-this-question-but-i-guess-i-didnt-put-enough-info-plz-help#comment-3750 wow. I know little about the court system other then basics but i do know that you CAN get a trusted adult friend even friends parents to go to the court and put forth presentable case to get custody of you and you sister. other then that the only other option for you two is foster care or your mom putting you guys up for adoption, unless you have anypart of your dads family that could take you in. Im 14 too and struggling with parents divorcing but my mom isnt like that.<br><b>References : </b><br> wow.
I know little about the court system other then basics but i do know that you CAN get a trusted adult friend even friends parents to go to the court and put forth presentable case to get custody of you and you sister. other then that the only other option for you two is foster care or your mom putting you guys up for adoption, unless you have anypart of your dads family that could take you in. Im 14 too and struggling with parents divorcing but my mom isnt like that.
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]]> By: nursecracker http://www.menagainstrape.org/center-against-domestic-violence/family-court-custody-question-i-had-already-posted-this-question-but-i-guess-i-didnt-put-enough-info-plz-help/comment-page-1#comment-3749 nursecracker Wed, 03 Mar 2010 02:11:59 +0000 http://www.menagainstrape.org/center-against-domestic-violence/family-court-custody-question-i-had-already-posted-this-question-but-i-guess-i-didnt-put-enough-info-plz-help#comment-3749 oh hon.. i'm so sorry you are in this situation. your mom sounds as if she has addiction and perhaps mental illness problems.. it's not her fault, but it IS her fault she has not gotten proper therapy or help. you are actually too young to work a regular job... you have to be a few years older to do that.. it's a very brave and mature thing for you to want to take care of your 9 year old sister, as well. it wasn't your cousin's fault you got into the alcohol, was it? perhaps you still have the option of staying with your cousin when it's all said and done. otherwise, i hope that you and your sister will find a safe, comfortable place to be. i'm sorry to hear of your losses, as well, and that your step father is dying. i'm sending hugs and all best wishes. PLEASE talk to your school's counselor or a teacher you trust. And, Is there another adult you trust and respect? Maybe someone who lives near you and knows you and your situation, would be better equipped to give you suggestions for help. sending lots of love...<br><b>References : </b><br> oh hon.. i’m so sorry you are in this situation.

your mom sounds as if she has addiction and perhaps mental illness problems.. it’s not her fault, but it IS her fault she has not gotten proper therapy or help.

you are actually too young to work a regular job… you have to be a few years older to do that.. it’s a very brave and mature thing for you to want to take care of your 9 year old sister, as well.

it wasn’t your cousin’s fault you got into the alcohol, was it? perhaps you still have the option of staying with your cousin when it’s all said and done.

otherwise, i hope that you and your sister will find a safe, comfortable place to be.

i’m sorry to hear of your losses, as well, and that your step father is dying.

i’m sending hugs and all best wishes.

PLEASE talk to your school’s counselor or a teacher you trust.

And, Is there another adult you trust and respect? Maybe someone who lives near you and knows you and your situation, would be better equipped to give you suggestions for help.

sending lots of love…
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