Men Against Rape

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This is a show about domestic violence and physical assault. If you live in the South Puget Sound area and you need help dealing with domestic violence, call Safe Place at 360-754-6300 or Turning Point Domestic Violence Services at 360-426-1216, or the 24-hour Crisis Line at 432-1212. Thank you for watching this presentation of Mental Health Solutions.

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I’ve been hit, punched in the face, kicked, threatened etc by my real, older brother for years. This still happens at least once a week. I’m too scared to call the police because they might not do anything about it and thus i might get embarrassed in front of everyone else e.g. my neighbors will probably start looking strangely at me and think why the hell has she called the police etc.

I hate my life because I’m continuously getting bullied by my older brother and I keep telling my parents who end up shouting at me and my brother and they keep saying that they’re going to call the police but they never do. So telling my own parents is not a solution at all.

I’m confused and I really wish i could die instead of living this type of life!!! I mean this seriously. I often thought about running away from home but I’ve realized that there’s no where to go to really. My grandparents have all died and there’s no relative or family friends i can live with. I’m trapped in a home that’s like a living Hell.

Most online websites suggest that people like me should call childline or the police but what can they possibly do? Would they really arrest my older brother for hitting, punching, smacking me extra? They might take it too lightly but I don’t know.

Also, I want you to focus on this bit. Although I hardly ever bleed or get scars after getting physically abused, it’s still very violent to abuse one’s sibling like this at least once a week for many years. I couldn’t imagine a week without getting physically abused to be honest.

What would you do if u were in my situation?
Would you call the police and say something like my brother keeps on hitting me and he’s done this for years!
Don’t you think this wouls seem a bit lame and the police wouldn’t get bothered?

Call child line first. See what they say. If you call the police it will be a serious matter and they will have to act, but there could be serious consequences for your family.

One of the most dangerous myths about family violence is the presumption that family court will protect domestic abuse suvivors. Learn how you can protect yourself and your children.

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I live in Croatia. The country is really f. up regarding the laws, and order. Someone had put the photos of my nephew 10 years old on the FB, and then some jerk, I assume also 10 years old, but am not sure, because he put 2pak’s pictures intead of his, and false name commented on his pictures with words like: Loser, Homosexual, Shut up, etc.
I wrote to that, I think is a kid, but am not sure, to stop with that. He wrote back saying: sorry, and when went on the pictures and kept on bullying my nephew.
I’ve been thinking to write a letter now to the women who did put these pictures on, to delete those comments.
Am I going to stop this bullying by doing this, or is it going to continue in school, and on the street with that problematic kid?
Should I write to that women and ask her to wake up her stupid brain, because she obviously doesn’t care as long her kid is not abused, maybe not in those words, but trying to enlight her, because people in Croatia, not all, but that kind are really primitive, and aggressive, and most of them have guns, and there is lots of domestic violence at home, which to them is normal. I didn’t live in Croatia for the last 20 years, and to me it is all a horror movie.
Thank You.
I agree that 10y olds are not allowed FB account, but he didn’t put the pictures on, but some other boys’ mother of her son’s birthday, on which was also my nephew. Under those pictures were abusive comments, by some boy, who thinks is 2pak and ganagster, so he talks against anyone who is not into guns or violence, and anyone who has good grades at school. I did talk to my nephew’s fater, he said he sorted it out. I’ve also wrote to that boy’s mother who did put the pictures to take off the comments, as a mother, she should be against it. She took it off immediatelly, which was good to know, that she is a human being after all. I did report that other boy to FB, because his profile was full of guns and homophobic abuses. My nephew is not gay, and yet he went on calling him homosexual, just because he was jealous of him, so didn’t know how to make himself more important. Anyway, it stopped. I had to include adults in all of this, because some kids are bullies, sad. Thank You !!!

It doesn’t matter Alison about the probable age. Everyone is incognito on the internet, so you don’t know the real age of the person who is cyber bulling your nephew. He should change his account and only give it to people he trusts.

This is a big issue just now. 2 teenage girls committed suicide over bullying at school and cyber bulling….If he is not being bullied at school, just ask his dad to make him change his account and that should be the end of the harrassment….

Phoebe Prince was a big issue about her being bullied..,.on the internet and at school but she knew the people who were behind it. In her case she should have told the teacher or the head of the school and her parents,
http://www.truecrimereport.com/2010/01/phoebe_prince_15_commits_suici.php

Goddess Force performing at 2009 SF/BA MECDA Gala Show at Cubberley Auditorium in Palo Alto. Fundraiser for Next Door Solution to Domestic Violence.

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Ok, it is in relationships, but all parents are sleeping, and I need an answer, so please, if awake.

Ok I have a problem…and I need the best possible solution about cyber bullying a child.?
I live in Croatia. The country is really f. up regarding the laws, and order. Someone had put the photos of my nephew 10 years old on the FB, and then some jerk, I assume also 10 years old, but am not sure, because he put 2pak’s pictures intead of his, and false name commented on his pictures with words like: Loser, Homosexual, Shut up, etc.
I wrote to that, I think is a kid, but am not sure, to stop with that. He wrote back saying: sorry, and when went on the pictures and kept on bullying my nephew.
I’ve been thinking to write a letter now to the women who did put these pictures on, to delete those comments.
Am I going to stop this bullying by doing this, or is it going to continue in school, and on the street with that problematic kid?
Should I write to that women and ask her to wake up her stupid brain, because she obviously doesn’t care as long her kid is not abused, maybe not in those words, but trying to enlight her, because people in Croatia, not all, but that kind are really primitive, and aggressive, and most of them have guns, and there is lots of domestic violence at home, which to them is normal. I didn’t live in Croatia for the last 20 years, and to me it is all a horror movie.
Thank You.

to the first replier: they have guns because it is a post war country that is still living in fear of their neighbors at times.

which would also explain some of the f. up kids over there because they didnt learn any better than survival of the fittest.
ok, i would be very careful with what you are doing to avoid that your nephew is getting picked on for being a mommies (aunties) boy.
first step is to report the comments to FB that should remove them. write a message to the person who uploaded the pictures and tell her that you reported the comments to protect your nephew. at the same time write the comment poster a message saying that you reported the comments and explain to him that this is not an acceptable behavior.
tomorrow, ask your nephew if he knows the boy who wrote the comments and find out if there is a deeper problem existing. then go to his school and ask the teachers how they deal with cyber mobbing. croatia is not behind the moon, they do have smart people there so be the change you want to see in the world and create awareness. make cyber mobbing a subject to be discussed in school so that the kids understand that this is no fun. get the media involved if need be but dont just sit there and be scared. take positive action and lead by example.
good luck!

A woman calls in saying her cousin in-law has been staying here for 12 to 13 years. They put a case forward 7 or 8 years ago and they put him on signing. The enquiry went to India and he was scared so he didnt go to sign and it has been a year since he applied again. An answer hasnt come, can you tell us what can be done. Harjap says you will have to wait if no answer is coming. She says no answer has come. Harjap says wait until an answer comes. They could make him permanent or not. She says it has been 12/13 years since he came. Harjap says the rule comes after 14 years, not 12 or 13, you hear that every week. She says she has another question, how long after do they give as visa to someone if they had a fight with their husband. Harjap says it depends if it comes in a visa, if it happened before they applied for a visa or after. She says it depends, ok thank you. Harjap says it is not like ordering a pizza, where it arrives half an hour to your house, it doesnt happen like that. It depends if you apply in a visa or out of it and it is not guaranteed for people with domestic violence, whether they get the visa or not. There are many illegal sisters that tried to do a domestic violence case but now they are wondering around here as their case got refused. They require proof, separate different things. Domestic violence has made me remember that next week, in the domestic violence organisation, the Women Asian Womens Resource Centre, guests will come to talk about domestic violence, if you have come from India and suffered domestic violence, what you should do and not do. Before you say they cause problems in the house, with some wives domestic violence does happen. I have seen some cases where the in-laws have battered the legs. Wives should know their right if someone hits or beats them up, it is a marriage visa for daughters and wives to come. It is not like you bring a slave from there, to clean your dishes 24 hours a day or give food to her like a dog. Treat a daughter in-law like a daughter in-law, dont do what happened to you in your past life, what your mother in-law did to you was great and you took it. It is not like that this country or day and age, where the daughter in-laws will take it. Next week will be a special topic on domestic violence.

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My Mamu is a resident of Janak puri (New Delhi) and married(arranged) in New Delhi as his wife belonged to Noida.She filed false complaint for dowry/torture was filed in women cell(Noida) by his wife after my marriage. She has also filed case of domestic violence and of legal separation. They got married in 2 1st april 2009 and been together only for 45 days, during this time , she been to Honeyhome abroad and vashno dev. She drinks, smokes and had illegitimate affair with other boys, which my mamu came to know after marriage.
Sir now what all i want to know is , this lady is not ready to go for mutual separation and asking for big amount which is not feasible for my mamu to give away. If my Mamu convert to Islam , what benefit we would get. I am very well aware he can’t get marry , neither he want. He just want divorce from that lady and want to give minimal amount possible. Some one suggest by converting to Islam , he can have some chance of getting easy divorce.( as marriage is not been registered in court it just by Hindu tradition) Please suggest our whole family is highly disturbed . I would be obliged if You can provide some solution.

Converting to a religion, for self serving interests is not wise or recommended.

However if you want, Islam doesn’t allow a Muslim man to marry a polytheistic woman, hence if he converts to Islam, by shariah automatically, their marriage becames invalid.

I’m doing a project on Family Domestic Violence; this is what i’m looking for as well.
–What are the causes, effects, and solutions?
However, if you have websites that will help me find these three topics that would be great. I’ve already got quite a few, but I feel the need to have more.

Thanks for all the help. Who ever is informative obviously gets the chosen for the Best Answer, in which will give ten points. It’s all greatly appreciated, and leave the stupidity comments out. I’m serious about this. I’m glad I’m learning this, i’m actually interested!

Have a wonderful day!

I know this won’t be as informativie as you are looking for…The problem is this is still a "silent" problem. Many people involved in these situations won’t talk about it. Including me, even with total stranger.

Solution: GET OUT – GET OUT GET OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Abusers don’t change. Abuse gets worse over time. Fear has a powerful hold over people. GET OUT NOW