Dad, I’m Home.(Ba, wo hui lai le) 爸,我回来了..Jay Chou (周杰伦)

June 122010

This song is a vivid evidence of the geniousness and originality of Jay’s musical talent. I don’t have its translation but the point is that
he broach taboo things in society about broken-home family and history of abusiveness in this song. I think the rap was kewL~.. (especially the hokkian ones)

Album: Fantasy 2001 ((范特西))
Song: Dad, I’m Home.. (爸,我回来了..)
Composer: Jay Chou (周杰伦)
Lyricist: Jay Chou
Singer: Jay Chou (周杰伦)

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1 of 4 [WA] Sheriff Pastor News Conference on Deputy Myron double-murder-suicide

June 82010

May 17, 2010
Pierce County Sheriff Paul Pastor meets with a few from the news media to discuss and take questions regarding the May 14th double murder suicide committed by Pierce County Sheriff’s Deputy Allen Myron. Myron killed his in-laws Monty and Sue Multanen, then himself after a standoff at his Gig Harbor home.

“…There’s no domestic violence calls, there’s no history of domestic violence in this family…”

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No One Believed Me “When men are victims of domestic violence”.

May 312010

No One Believed Me
When men are victims of domestic violence.

By Glenn Sacks, M.A. and Ned Holstein, M.D.
Four Sacramento County Sheriff’s cars pulled up in front of David Woods’s house. He tried to explain to them what happened. But the lead deputy cut him off: “Yeah, that’s fine. Put your hands behind your back.”

David said, “No, wait, she stabbed me … there’s the knife. See the knife? See my neck wound? See?”

“Put your hands behind your back. Turn around,” the deputy replied.

“No,” David protested. “She stabbed…”

The deputies drew their weapons. David’s little daughters came running out of the back bedroom pleading, “Leave Daddy alone! Mamma tried to hurt him with a knife!”

One deputy, a woman, took the children in the bedroom and shut the door. David stood there, cuffed.

How the fight began

David’s wife Ruth had taken the kids out for a walk in 39 degree weather — for seven hours.

“By the time she got back their fingers were blue, their lips were blue, their ears were blue,” David says. The children were soaked; she was soaked. We argued for an hour. “We had to put them in a warm bath to warm them up; they were hypothermic.

Then she started cutting up vegetables for dinner. She had a serrated vegetable knife with a blade about seven inches long. She turned around and she stabbed at me.

“I tried to block it, but I was surprised. I was off balance…the knife went right through my collar and gave me a little nick on my neck.

“She reared back to stab me again. I tried to block it again…I hit her in the mouth. She dropped the knife, ran to the telephone, called 911, and told them, ‘My husband is hitting me! I think he’s gonna kill me.’

“When she dropped the knife, I stood over it. I wouldn’t let her hide the knife. I was going to say to the police, ‘See? She tried to stab me.’”

The truth came from the kids

After 15 minutes, the female deputy returned from the bedroom after talking to David’s children. She told the other deputies, “It’s true. Both of the daughters saw it. She tried to stab him with the knife.”

They took the cuffs off David. “Your wife obviously needs help,” the lead deputy said. “She works for Kaiser, you’ve got health insurance that covers mental health, you need to call the emergency number and get her an appointment.”

David says there’s a double standard when it comes to charging men. “Now, isn’t that strange? When she had a fat lip, it was a felony and I was going to jail. But when they finally realized that she tried to stab me in the neck, it stopped being a crime, and instead it was a mental health issue.”
The history of their case

David Woods is a partially disabled former Marine who endured years of abuse at the hands of his wife Ruth and the law enforcement and domestic violence system which unwittingly enabled her.

Woods, a former construction worker, suffered disabling work-related injuries early in his marriage. He says:
“The violence really began in our family about 10 days after Ruth realized that she had all the power [financially]. I knew I had to get my kids out. I called the largest domestic violence shelter agency in Sacramento County several times. They told me, ‘Men are perpetrators of domestic violence; women are victims of domestic violence,’ and hung up.

“I had no way out. I had no money. Whenever we bought a car, Ruth insisted that the car be in her name only, so that if I took it and went to the movies without her approval she would call the police, and report, ‘I’m estranged from my husband, and he stole my car.’ She did that several times.”

Worst of all is what David’s children endured. One daughter says, “No one would help. Teachers, parents of friends, anyone I tried to talk to about what was going on at home told me I didn’t understand, that my mother couldn’t possibly be the violent party. When the police came to our home, they would always be ready to arrest my father, sometimes putting handcuffs on him. It was up to me to scream as loud as possible that it was my mom and not my dad, so they wouldn’t take him away and leave me alone with her.”

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Catholic Priest Child Sexual Abuse – 2002 Reuters Report from Boston

May 272010

March 2002 Reuters International news report says Boston Catholic cathedral is “a firestorm amid the largest sex scandal in church history.” Report features SNAP Board Member Mark Serrano in New Jersey and Phil Saviano, Founder of New England SNAP Chapter, in Boston. Former Massachusetts priest David Holley is profiled. Holley died in a New Mexico prison in November 2008. One of the first U.S. priests to be sent to prison for sex crimes against children, he was serving out a sentence of 275 years.

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1076 – Stop Domestic Violence

May 222010

Take preventive measures so that Domestic Violence doesn’t happen

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1084 – Stop Domestic Violence. Then Recovery Forward

May 172010

Stop Domestic Violence. Then Recovery Forward

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A History of Violence – Something Different

May 112010

Anger management; media and domestic violence

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What evidence is admissable in a restraining order hearing? SERIOUS domestic violence issues?

May 112010

This has been the longest 4 days in the history of time for me!! My dearest friend is in turmoil. She was recently granted a protection from abuse order for both herself and her son against her ex husband, as the ex did not show up for his hearing. The ex has since requested a new hearing, or to vacate the order stating that she made up all the abuse alleged.
In his affidavit he states that
A, He never contacted her except via email, and that all his emails were respectful, and any bad ones she clearly forged.
B. He has never been convicted of domestic abuse
C. The only reason she got the order was to block him from access to his son

My friend and I have now gathered the following
1. All of her phone bills from the last year detailing hundreds of phone calls and text messages coming from him
2. A copy of his court records from his 2 assault convictions on her, and a letter from his former probation officer.
3. ALL of the emails in the past where he was either abusive, threatening, or simply just cancelling his visitation
4. A timeline of times where he would set up a meeting time, and then not show up to pick up his son, and then harass her via phone and text. This is backed up by the phone records
5. Notorized letters from witnesses, detailing the ex’s repeated no shows, and how he has in fact not shown up for a visitation in over a year.
6. An email from the ex himself, saying his reasons for not taking time with his son was due to money (then he asked to borrow money)
7. A statement from her husband, who had worked to reintagrate the special needs child with his father, the husband witnessed the ex husnband verbally and physically abuse the child
8. Documentation from childs therapists detailing the results of said abusive acts
9. Letter from Childrens services stating that they "substantiate physical abuse" with the ex husband as being the perpatrator
10. A letter from the Domestic Violence services group that helped her with shelter and safe planning 3 years ago supporting continued protection from this man. FYI, the abuse and harassment resumed as soon as the first order expired. My friend did not make it to court to get it renewed as she was in the hospital delivering a baby.

I know I am beating this issue to death, but her son is autistic, and her ex is vile to him. Shaking him for exhibiting repetitive movements, and calling him "retard" and "freak". This man has beaten her physically, mentally, and her spirit is almost gone. Please, someone tell me this man will not stand a chance.

Does he stand a chance of getting this order vacated? The other issue is even if he gets another hearing date, she cannot go as her work has her travelling during the week for the next 4 months.

I think I am lookign for reassurance, and guidance, and prayers
Its not that she just can’t get a day off, she has already TAKEN a week off for this just a month ago, and her ex did not bother to show for the first hearing. At this point, she has burned any and all time she has, and she is buried.
How can her ex just fail to show for a hearing, and then get another one? It is obvious he is just using this as another control tool

Let the Judge review everything you have gathered. Any forms of contact are admissible, to the best of my knowledge. There may be an exception with audio recordings, but that should be left up to the Judge (if it is clear who the parties are in the recording, if he admits it is his voice, and especially if it is a 911 dispatch recording, etc., there should not be a problem).

Of course, it is ultimately up to the Judge after review of all the facts and evidence to renew the order, but I do not see that happening if she does not make herself available to be present at the hearing, or at a minimum hires an attorney. She is requesting the Court issue an order of such a serious nature and cannot make herself available because of ‘work’ does not make sense to me, no matter the reason.

Tell your friend to talk to her employer … as serious as her situation sounds, she really must attend the hearing. If she absolutely cannot work it out, she needs to seek the advice of an attorney. An attorney may be able to get the hearing rescheduled (highly unlikely the Court can/will set it out 4 months just to accommodate her ‘work’ schedule though), or make arrangements for her to appear by telephone (not sure the Judge would agree to this considering the nature of this matter).
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A friend of mine is in a domestic violence situation, and needs to know how to get out of her lease?

May 82010

My friend’s boyfriend is very abusive, but she’s only called the cops on him once, and she did not press charges that time. The two of them have been living together for a little over a year, but now she’s had enough and wants to move out(she’s on the lease, he isn’t…there are no children involved, thankfully). But her apartment complex is very strict about that and they want to charge her $5,000 in fees….plus court costs. Is there any legal way of breaking your lease without having to pay all that money? Would there have to be domestic violence charges filed? What are her options here?

She is moving out for her protection…if she leaves him, she’s going to go live with out of state relatives, but she does NOT want anything negative on her rental history/credit once she’s ready to find a place of her own there.

she’s on the lease – he’s not..
he needs to leave.. and she needs to finish up her lease.

Lewis House: 30 Years – Stopping Domestic Violence Lakeville PD

May 82010

Community Action Council’s Lewis House is a shelter for battered women & children. This video takes a look at the history of the Lewis House and what it has done to help families get back to life without domestic abuse.

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