Rape

my husband incarcerated in jail, has abused me, in the whole 4 years we are together, IT WAS FOR THE FIRST TIME HE EVER TOUCHED ME. Per accidental, he had touched our son, I had a cup in my hand and my baby in my arms from 8 months. My husband beat me and the cup comes against my baby head. Now I am in a situation, LAW, DCF, a big headache. And much more emotional issues. I want to talk to my husband who is in jail. But I have an injunction against him, I don’t want to loose my baby to the state. Is there a way, I can talk to him, because if i dismiss the injunction, my child will be taken away from me. I got an injunction, untill may 2011 for my child, so he can visit him in the visitation center. Please Help. Maybe I miss something or dont know enough info.

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AT WAS THE FIRST TIME HE HAD ABUSED ME. IN THE ENTIRE 4 YEARS.
AND WHO IS TALKING ABOUT DRUGS, YOU MUST BE ON CRACK.

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I need help from someone who know, what he or she is talking about, an adult please, with knowledge or experience. Do not judge because you do not know me, I only ask advice, if I want to talk with kids, I would not be here.

Do not talk to him or you could lose your baby. I understand of why u want to chat with him cause u miss him. I get it. Don’t do it. Its not worth it. If he does it once he will do it again. You should listen to some of these answers here. I am very experienced in the domestic violence areas. I grew up around it. My family went there it as well to. Usually if there is time number 1 there is a time number 2 as well. I get it this is his first time & u may want him back but if u do this u are taking a risk in loosing your child.

We are proud to share our “Speak Out Against Domestic Violence” video with you. The video tells the emotional story of abuse and provides direction and suggestions for those who are victims of domestic and intimate partner violence.

Avon Foundation for Women is a proud supporter of the National Family Justice Center Alliance, and individual Family Justice Centers (FJC) across the United States that help women and children in need. This inspirational video highlights the help FJC clients receive, and describes their journeys from DV Victims to Survivors and Advocates.

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From the awesome live performance of the entire White Album May 2, 2009, at Oregon State University. Curtis Monette is playing the Clapton part. The concert was a benefit for the Center Against Rape and Domestic Violence. Home page: beatlesatosu.org

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The woman, who suffers from cerebral palsy, had been in a shopping center Oct. 30 in the 3300 block of North McCarran Boulevard when Joel Eliazar Ortega, 30, led her behind a business and attacked her. Soon after, Reno police officers responding to a call that Ortega was battering his wife in their nearby apartment, recognized Ortega as fitting the description of the suspect. He was arrested after the victim identified him.

Chief Deputy District Attorney Bruce Hahn described the crime as among the most ghastly sexual assaults he’s ever seen.

“She was dragged from her wheelchair, her clothes taken off, sexually assaulted and then left lying in an alley,” said Washoe District Judge Patrick Flanagan. “I have listened to you carefully, and you said ‘things happen’ and you get in trouble based on your behavior and doctors say you can’t take care of your daughter.

“You are a danger,” Flanagan said. “…you are lucky there is only one life sentence I can impose in this case.”

In rendering a sentence of life against Ortega, Flannagan said he would be eligible for parole after serving at least 10 years in prison. Ortega is also an illegal immigrant who also must face immigration charges.

“You will be deported at the earliest opportunity and will never return to this country again, except lawfully,” Flanagan said.

Ortega had apologized for the crime and said “I need help.”

His public defender, John Malone, said Ortega has been receiving treatment at the state’s mental hospital for several years. He blamed the rape on Ortega not taking his psychiatric medicines and drinking alcohol.

Ortega pleaded guilty to the rape, and was also convicted of domestic violence, related to when police responded to his apartment after the assault.

The victim was not present in court, although her father was and said he was too emotional to speak about the incident.
http://www.rgj.com/article/20100526/NEWS01/100526016/Illegal-immigrant-sentenced-in-Reno-rape-of-para

This illegal should have had the same thing done to him. I do not understand how anyone could do such a crime against any woman or a woman with a disability. These illegals are getting worse with the crimes they have been committing.

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The Center for the Pacific Asian Family is a non profit organization that seeks to prevent and end domestic violence within the API community, which has some of the most common cases, but are the least vocal about it. This shouldn’t be happening.

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A North Charleston police officer is arrested for criminal domestic violence.

Charleston police say it happened at about 7:25 Tuesday night, on Culpepper Circle. When police arrived they found the suspect 31 year old Christopher Butler leaning against a red pickup truck bleeding from the face, and without a shirt.

His wife, Karen Butler says they are recently seperated, and that Butler came to the residence in an intoxicated state and began punching a bird feeder, kicking lights from the walkway, and then headbutting a lamp post in the yard.

Ms. Butler says he began to fight with her brother for no apparent reason, when she stepped in between them. At that time, Butler grabbed her by the right arm, and hair, and they fought on the ground.
Christopher Butler is being held at the Charleston County Detention Center.

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Dude head butts a lamp post? ( o _ 0 ) Umm…geeish…this guy is a cop?!? Punches a bird feeder? Great. So what are the birds suppose to eat now? I mean they can always eat worms but the bird feeder thing was like a threat for them. What a jerk! Not to mention he’s fighting with his wife and his wife’s brother. This guy is a cop? That’s scary!

Just goes to prove ya never know what a person is really like, or what they are capable of, …. And I am with you on that bird feeder!!!

(((Kooties)))

PSA on emotional violence as a form of violence.

Produced by the Asian Alliance Against Domestic Violence (AAADV) and the Chinese Community Health Resource Center (CCHRC).

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Im separate from my ex husband a year… due of Domestic Violence behave of his behalf, So I have a TRO against him on behalf of me and my son….The judge granted him rights of fully supervised visitations on a visitation Center. I Altought the TRO don’t specific say the child’s custody is mine, my 3 year old son stays with me. when he( ex husband) was ordered to live the residency by the Judge( a year ago), he came escorted with police officers and was order to take whatever was his personal belongs, but he took( without I noticed) my son Id( Passport and State Id)… Now I have a new relationship almost 4 months ago, and I want to go visit California to to be with my BF and maybe stay there with him( Im in Hawaii) My ex husband entered the divorced petition and the hearing will be 2 months from now( I didn’t got served yet because he don’t know my new residence or where to find me). I want to know if I can travel with my son to California without his ID and if it will be illegal if I decided to stay in California and finished my divorced papers from there?
it doens’t have any court order that it is decline or giving me permission to travel( If I did have such order I won’t be asking)

Small children don’t need ID to travel domestically. However, your ex could go to court and force you back to HI if he finds out what you’ve done. You have to use your own judgment. It’s kind of dicey.

Attorney General Terry Goddard today presented his Offices 2010 Distinguished Service Awards to victims rights leaders in Arizona for their outstanding service to crime victims.

Today we pay special tribute to those who provide services to crime victims and have shown leadership, innovation, and commitment to improving services, Goddard said. These men and women are shining examples of the extraordinary efforts made every day to be sure that victims are treated with fairness, dignity and respect.”

Arizona Supreme Court Chief Justice Rebecca W. Berch and U. S. Attorney Dennis K. Burke also addressed the honorees at todays ceremony at the Carnegie Center, adjacent to the Attorney Generals Office in Phoenix.

Maricopa County Superior Court Judge Roland Steinle received the Distinguished Service Award for Innovative Practices for his unique program in the collection of delinquent restitution payments for crime victims. The new programs inspiration came from the process for collecting late child support payments in family court, which has been highly successful. The concept has received national attention, and Judge Steinle has been invited to Washington D.C. to speak about the program to the National Center for Victims of Crime. To date, the Restitution Court has ordered over $200,000 in delinquent restitution for crime victims.

Goddard also presented the Public Policy Distinguished Service Award to Bobbi Sudberry from the Arizona Coalition against Domestic Violence and co-founder of Kaitys Way. Bobbi lost her daughter tragically to dating violence and has been instrumental in getting Kaitys law enacted in honor of her daughter, Kaitlyn.

Distinguished Service Awards for Leadership were presented to Dr. Neil Websdale, professor of criminology and criminal justice at Northern Arizona University, and Sue Rutherford, executive director for the Trauma Intervention Program (TIP) of Arizona.

In 2008, through a Governors Office initiative to protect domestic violence victims, Dr. Websdale created the fatality review teams to make system changes that would safeguard victims and prevent domestic violence-related deaths. Dr. Websdale has authored books on domestic violence, worked as a past national director of the Domestic Violence Fatality Review initiative and helped craft legislation giving review teams legal protection.

Sue Rutherford was instrumental in creating the Yavapai Chapter of the Trauma Intervention Program of Arizona. This group of trained volunteers provides emotional aid and practical support to victims and their families following a traumatic event. Additionally, she implemented the first automatic call system for TIPs in the country. Working with various agencies, they developed a system where specific types of calls are automatically dispatched by the 911 system at the same time police and fire are dispatched. This has tremendously improved response time.

The Distinguished Service Award for Service Collaboration was presented to the F.B.I. Phoenix Divisions Squad C-4. Supervisor Special Agent Julie A. Halferty of this squad formed the Securities Fraud and Mortgage Fraud Task Force to address the plight of crime victims. These multidisciplinary teams, comprised of law enforcement agencies, the I.R.S., lending institutions, the US Postal services and the Arizona Corporation Commission have coordinated efforts to combat mortgage and securities fraud that has swept Arizona.

Finally, the Distinguished Service Award for Advocacy and Direct Service was presented to Pamela Turner for her work with the Northern Arizona Center against Sexual Assault (NACASA). In 2001, she led the charge to establish NACASA, the first program of its kind in this region to serve three counties, the Navajo and Hopi nations and the Grand Canyon National park.

To reach the Attorney Generals Office of Victim Services, please contact victimservices@azag.gov or (602) 542-5025. Additional information is available at the Attorney Generals Office Web site, www.azag.gov.

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Why?

**Please Note: I am not trying to be mean by asking this question**

Examples I found:

WEALTH: Women hold 65% of the country’s wealth [Fortune Magazine]

CHILD CUSTODY: Women receive custody of 92% of the children of divorce and illegitimacy, and men only 4%. [Department of Health & Human Services]

INCOME: Men constitute 60% of workplace hours, work longer hours, work harder, and are more qualified, rarely file sexual discrimination or harassment lawsuits or take pregnancy leave, yet earn only 42% more than women [Dept. Labor]

SUICIDE: Men’s suicide rate is 4.6 times higher than women’s [Dept. Health & Human Services -- 26,710 males vs 5,700 females]

LIFE EXPECTANCY: Men’s life expectancy is seven (7) years shorter than women’s [National Center for Health Statistics -- males 72.3 yrs vs females 79 yrs] yet receive only 35% of government expenditures for health care and medical costs.

FEDERAL TAXES: Even though men pay 115% of federal income taxes women constitute 11% more of the voters.

VOTE: Because there are 11% more female than male voters, males have little to no influence on how the male tax dollar is spent.

WAR: Men, not women, fight and die in battle [Dept. Defense -- Vietnam Casualties 47,369 men vs 74 women] while women sue the taxpayer when they have their butt pinched.

WORKPLACE FATALITIES: Men account for more than 95% of workplace fatalities.

MURDER: Men are murdered at a rate almost 5 times that of women [Dept. Health & Human Services -- 26,710 men vs 5,700 women]

JURY BIAS: Women are acquitted of spousal murder at a rate 9 times that of men [Bureau Justice Statistics -- 1.4% of men vs 12.9% of women]

COURT BIAS: Men are sentenced 2.8 times longer than women for spousal murder [Bureau Justice Statistics -- men at 17 years vs women at 6 years]

JUSTICE SYSTEM BIAS: Even though the amount of the average "child support payment" due from women is half the amount due from men, and even though women are twice as likely as men to default on those payments, fathers are 97% of "child support" collections prosecutions [Census Bureau]

WELFARE: Even though men are the recipients of less than 10% of all welfare disbursements, men are required to refund welfare payments made to women.

SECONDARY EDUCATION: Even though zero percent of American 12th grade girls were able to correctly answer basic math and physics questions, less than one quarter of America’s secondary and elementary school teachers are men.

HIGHER EDUCATION: There are more than 200 all-female colleges for women and now not one single all-male college for men. 5.8% fewer men than women are enrolled in 4 year colleges, even though two thirds of those who score higher than 550 in SAT Math are males. In 1993 only 44.5% of college enrollment were men, and that figure has declined since then. Only 45.8% of of bachelor’s degrees were conferred to men in 1992, even though 98.2% of the top fiftieth percentile of the GRE are men, and ZERO PERCENT of American high school girls correctly answered 28 out of 67 TIMSS advanced math questions. Only 38.4% of private 4 year college students were men as of 1990, and this figure has declined since then.

LEGAL SYSTEM BIAS: 96% of physical altercations resulting in injury to a spouse occurs AFTER the date of separation. [Read: spousal abuse laws that pretend that husbands are dangerous discriminate against husbands when we know that only a very small percent of domestic violence is associated with them]. [Chadwick and Heaton, "Statistical Handbook of the American Family"]

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: Even though study after study shows that women are the majority of the initiators of domestic violence, and 58% of the above mentioned physical altercations are initiated by the female, Congress passed the obviously anti-male VAWA and VAWA II.which are known would make the problem far worse. [Read: despite the fact we discriminate against husbands in protective orders, women still cause more than half of domestic altercations because they know they can get away with it].

CHILD VIOLENCE: Even though mothers commit 55% of child murders and biological fathers commit 6%, even though NIS-3 shows that Mother-only households are 3 times more fatal to children than Father-only households, children are systematically removed from the natural fathers who are their most effective protectors and men are imprisoned at rate 20 times that of women.

FAMILY BREAKDOWN: The US Surgeon General notes that divorce is more harmful to a man’s health than smoking tobacco, yet as much as $1.3 Trillion of federal expenditures accomplish little else than undermine family stability.

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I think there is sexism against men, but not many of those statistics you’ve listed are a result of pure sexism. you want a better example? check out the percentage of boys that are being medicated in elementary school compared to girls. THAT is sexism at work

btw, how exactly is an increased suicide rate a result of sexism? (it’s actually because men are more likely to use a gun and women are more likely to take pills. it’s a result of sexual differences not discrimination.)