Rape

Not much police can do if the victim doesn’t want it reported.

More importantly I urge you not to report it against their will. Being raped is a situation where someone has had control of their life taken away from them, and as someone who cares about them the best thing you can do is help them get that control back, and that means letting them make their own choices. Even if you don’t agree with what they choose. Reporting a rape can be extremely traumatizing for someone, as they’ll have to tell every detail of their experience several times to various strangers. The best thing you can do is provide them information on every resource available to them, and let them know you’ll support ANY decision they make. Even pressuring them do make a choice or giving your opinion on what you think they should do will have negative consequences in the long run.

I’ve even seen a case where a rapist called and reported his own rapes of two different women. They were badgered by the police, and it was his way of sending his victims through another level of hell by making them feel pressured to talk about it and making them think they had made a mistake in the way they handled things.

A good resource for how to help someone is your local Rape Crisis Center, I believe all have a 24-hour hotline. You can call and ask for information on how to support someone else, you don’t need to be the victim. Find yours at http://centers.rainn.org/. It would also be good to provide the victim with this contact information, they can get free counseling or support.

Always be aware of your surroundings.

Don’t wear hoods, wear hats. Hoods impair your peripheral vision.

Lock your doors immediate upon entering your car.

Keep your keys in your hand with them poked out between your fingers…great weapon.

Scream as loud as you can.

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If God wanted rape to be impossible, he would have had teeth down there or at least some sort of mechanism to stop it from happening. He could have also made women stronger so that they could defend their bodies. However, God has made women so that if a man feels that she deserves to get pregnant, she does whether she likes it or not.

Therefore, did God intend for rape to happen? If a person rapes, the person is most likely male and since males are stronger than females, rape can easily happen.

Women DO have a defense against rape so therefore there is a God…Thank you random atheist:

http://www.ehow.com/how_4852872_defend-yourself-against-sexual-abuse.html

Sexual abuse happens in too many situations. It can happen in the workplace, at school and at home. There are men who abuse adult women as well as underage girls. Girls and women should learn the basics of defending themselves against being treated in any way that feels inappropriate. Girls and women need to know that if they are uncomfortable, there is good reason for it. Start by saying "No!"–even if you are scared–and follow the steps below to protect yourself.

Instructions

Step 1

Use your voice. If somebody touches you and you don’t like it, say in a loud voice, "Please don’t touch me." This works extremely well in school and office environments. It also works in the home at family gatherings. If you are alone with an abusive person, it may deter him less but you should still do it. You want to be able to say, "I told him not to touch me!"

Step 2

Walk away. Avoid being alone with an abusive person as much as possible. Leave the room as soon as you realize you are alone together. If feasible, leave the house or building. There is safety in numbers, so either find a room with other people in it or go to the house of a neighbor that you trust.

Step 3

Stick to your story. If you claim that somebody is sexually abusing you, and people don’t believe you, don’t back down. You may not want to argue, but do not let anybody coerce you into believing you are wrong.

Step 4

Take a self-defense class. In a good self-defense class, you will learn how to get out of dangerous situations and how to defend yourself if you cannot get away. You may find it empowering to enroll in a martial arts class as well. Remember, however, that self-defense and martial arts classes teach useful skills and are not simply ways to learn to beat other people up.

Step 5

If you are a minor (under 18 years of age), talk to a school counselor about what is happening or what you are afraid of. If you are not comfortable talking to your counselor, find a teacher or other adult that you are comfortable talking to. School officials are required by law to protect you.

Step 6

Talk to your doctor. If you are a minor, your doctor is also required by law to protect you if he or she knows you are in an abusive situation.

Step 7

Get help via your local women’s group or professional counselor. College campus women’s centers often have information they give to the entire community (you don’t have to be a student). They can get you in touch with support groups who help people dealing with sexual abuse or the threat of sexual abuse.

Step 8

Call 911. If somebody wants to sexually abuse you, you are in danger and it is an emergency.

Step 9

If you are a victim of domestic violence, please follow the first link in the Resources section.

Also, how does revealing clothing or flirty behaviour factor in to rape? Or does it not have any relation at all? Please explain your views. Thanks.

I don’t have a clue, I’ve always thought it was for sex in a very twisted way, but many tend to point in another direction.

Some lads are quite weddy and some women are quite manly so it would be possible. But could the bloke win?
I’m up for womens rights!
equality that is

Yes, I have actually seen it done

As of 2008, unbelievably, still not even one 24-hour rape crisis center exits in Japan. Why? Has nothing changed since the war? Is rape still acceptable in Japan? Rape test kits are not even readily available and rape victims are forced by police to engage in re-enactment photographs of the entire rape against them. Each position of the rape is photographed by the police. We hope that re-enactment photographs will be banned without delay and that rape victims will receive immediate medical care.

One long term resident from Australia, who was raped in Japan, by a U.S. military service member stationed here, is one of three women in the documentary film who talks about the inhumane, outdated and barbaric treatment of rape victims in Japan. Her vision since she was raped in 2002, has been to establish the first 24 hour rape crisis center in Japan. Please hear the voices of the victims in Japan, who need immediate help today.

It is shameful how most victims must suffer alone and in silence with no where to turn to.

This documentary film was made in August 2008 and is the current system of Japan.

If we all work together…we can make a difference. It does not matter where we are around the globe. Just knowing that we are not alone and our goal is one…

Please leave your heartfelt comments so that not even one voice of a rape victim is left unheard throughout the world.

There will come a day – when people all around will say with me…It is not okay.

It is not okay….

For more information contact WARriors_Women Against Rape
Blog: http://www.myspace.com/warriors_japan
http://twitter.com/janesvoice

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Can certain individuals also gradually become violent towards people, including children, trying to seek revenge against the rapist by shooting him in the head, or if strong and good enough kill him in a life and death fight? Revenge is not necessarily limited to males. Anyone can be violent if they so want to be. It’s really personal choice, and how you were raised that has an influence. I can imagine victims of molestation, or rape would suffer from delusions of persecution, and have a intense hatred for men. Do they also do drugs to make up for this? Have any committed suicide?

Some do. One girl who was raped would come on Y!A quite often and claim that all men were rapist because they had a penis and wanted to stick it in women. Lots of prostitutes supposedly have been physically abused and become drug users as well. And anyone having violence done against them might turn to doing violence against others as a way of venting. Of course some will commit suicide because they can’t continue to deal with how having been raped now makes them feel, or how they think others now see them.

Or is it better to just go to therapy and put it behind me? Anyone with experience or thoughts on this?? From a victim’s standpoint to therapist to attorney or any party in between who can provide an opinion on what the best course of action would be.

A friend and I were raped around the same time ( by different people). She filed charges and I did not. I was so proud of her strength for filing charges because she was able to send him to jail and prevent him from possibly reoffending or at least having to notify everyone of his past. Because most sexual offenders do reoffend I wish now that I would have filed charges. Going through her trial with her was difficult but she was able to come to terms with what happened to her through the trial, if just a bit. Definatly therapy either way.

John McCain’s choice for Vice President, Sarah Palin, believes that abortion should be illegal, even in cases of rape and incest.

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