Men Against Rape

through some sort of martial arts training? do you really believe ur training will work / save you from it?

Some can, not all. And to be honest if someone has not been put in that situation they cannot give you a true answer they can only say what they think they would do.
I have been put in that situation I didn’t think about my training or the moves I was going to do, I had a sense of panic and had to save myself (in other words I went crazy on the dude because I refused to let it happen), and it wasn’t my training that saved me, I just got lucky and happened to connect my knee to his nose.

I teach self defense and one thing I always tell my girls, do not think because you have training you are indestructible. There is no way to be able to know how you are going to react until you are put in that situation and there is no way to know what that person is capable of. When you are trained, you have time to think about moves and combinations you are going to use, when you spar you have an idea of the others training and what they can do. But when you are actually attacked it is a lot different and the person attacking you isn’t going to stop because you are hurt or you messed up. 9 times out of 10 men are stronger then women, and the down fall to women is when they think that they are untouchable.

Domestic violence is sadly a reality in Indian society, a truism. In the Indian patriarchal setup. but there must be some solution to it so can any one suggest me the way to get out of it. Or some place to find the way.

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It seems we only care to "end violence against women" but apparently violence against anyone else is OK.

I’ve never seen an "end violence against men" "end violence against the elderly" "end violence against the sick" or even an "end violence against children" ad.

Why is violence against women more important?
Why don’t we try to end violence against everyone?
Jessica, I’ve seen one ad against elder NEGLECT, not violence, and one ad about verbal child abuse.

HUNDREDS of ads against any kind of abuse against women.

Not a single one against men.

The feminist will it to be, and the politicians pandering for the female vote (they think)make it so.

Men are six and a half times more likely to be a victim of violence than women which is pretty alarming. Yet all the attention is devoted to violence against women. I see this as unfair and negligent. If society focused more on the prevention of violence against males, violence overall will decrease and violence against women will also go down as side effect.

You’re probably right that violence against women would go down if it were to go down toward men. But I think that the reason that violence against women gets so much more attention is that it is often perpetrated by men who are supposed to be caring for them, not hurting them. Women feel trapped in the cycle of violence. Whereas men are the victims of violence by people outside their families. They can escape the cycle by avoiding the perpetrator. A random act of violence is very different than on-going abuse and violence against women. But you’re right. More attention needs to be focused on violence in general and not just domestic violence.

Imagine after a session of consensual sex between a man and a woman the man latter falsely attempts to press charges of rape against the woman.

Would the woman be remanded, charged, convicted or even at least take the man serious like the women who falsely claim they were raped by a man.

Heck do you even think any man has tried this?

Your opinions.
@ lalala
Who said it was?

It may have been tried in the past. But, in most likelihood, no. Because of societal views, most men would be made a fool of, if he attempted to do so. Men legitimately raped by females have a tough time convincing authorities that they were. I actually have a short story, not about rape, but rather domestic violence. A friend of mine was mercilessly beaten by his girlfriend (at the time), on several different occasions. He would show up, in our little group of friends, with bruises and some cuts. He would always tell us "It’s no big deal, she’s just a bit moody." The problem was, that he was just overly passive about everything. Eventually, it became too much for him, and he had to dump her (in his own, ‘trying to be overly compromising’ way). Soon after, she started damaging his property and threatening him. About a week after he dumped her, he decided to go to the authorities, and all they told him was to "man up." We, his friends, eventually got her to leave him alone.

Kinda a tangent of the whole ‘rape’ thing, but still valid in the fact that women tend to (but not necessarily always) get off easier with the authorities.

If you have any opinions or answers on how domestic violence or sexual abuse against women ( caused by men) please tell me what your thoughts are? if you think there are no possible solutions please list no and why. thank you for your time!

I’m going to go out on a massive limb here – the problem is deeply societal and it comes from a number of things:

1) Sex in our society is deeply misunderstood, misused and we are taught that sex is bad, sex is shameful and you should feel guilty if you have too much of it. I believe that this comes directly from religion.
2) We live in a male dominated society where might is right, survival of the fittest is deeply ingrained in our thinking. This creates the image that women are the weaker sex. I also believe this comes from religion – god is seen as male.
3) Women are said to provoke men and men are helpless to the lure of a woman’s sexuality. I also believe this comes from religion – Adam & Eve. Did Eve not tempt Adam?

Ok, I have to say that I am not religious. I am spiritual though.

The cultural myths above are deeply ingrained into our culture because religion promotes them and our societal laws are based in religion. If you don’t believe me, take a look. How about the 10 commandments? Are they not the basis of law today? Law follows religion, it has to, how else were the people meant to be controlled when we were living in non connected communities in centuries gone? Even if you are not sure about this one, hear me out.

To fix these problems, we need to change our cultural myths – the way we see sex as a society, a much greater respect for women based on the fact that might is not right. Actually love is more right than might.

In a normal intimate relationship, sex is good, sex is fun, sex feels great, sex is spiritual, sex can be mindblowingly amazing, sex and love are very closely linked, our bodies are beautiful, sexy, delicious and our bodies sexually turn each other on. Our bodies are not to be ashamed of. We do not feel guilty for having sex. Sex is not shameful in any way. This is the case right? Well then, lets teach it to our kids this! Could you imagine what life would be like if everyone grew up loving their bodies and thinking that sex was great? How would it feel as a woman if having as much sex as you could was actually respected because you were celebrating your body & the joys of it!

I know this sounds crazy & totally way out, but its simply a matter of thinking about it differently. If we as a race thought like this about sex, would their be as much sexual dysfunction in our society? I VERY MUCH DOUBT IT.

To get more respect for women, how about we introduce a goddess or two into our religions and see them as equal to our gods. That would say to society that women are equal to men. This would then see what women bring to the human race as just as valuable as men. If women were seen as valuable and not just weak and here to support the power of men, society would come down much harder on men that abuse women. So, if a woman said she was raped, perhaps she would be believed, she would be shown respect in the court process and not have to prove the man’s guilt and go through all sorts of violations to do it.

You know, there is a way to look at what is right for the human race, to see what works for us as a society by saying: "What would life be like if everybody did….." So what if everybody did look at sex differently and what would life be like if we all respected women as much as men?

I tell you what, the world would be a VASTLY different place.

So, my answer is change the societal myths by either changing religious myths or totally debunking the old ones and creating new ones. Teach the new way of looking at sex and women to our children, bring them up with a totally different idea about sex, sexuality and the ideas that while men & women are different, they are just as valuable in society as one another.

Seriously, the above is truth anyway and it’s obvious that sex is good and woman & man are just as valuable to society as each other. Lets just admit it and teach our children differently. They would then teach it to their children and so on.

To me, that is the only solution. The rest are band-aids. We need new views on sex and women. There is no other way around it.

As usual, with all societal problems, a change in consciousness is needed.