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I’m completely my senior thesis on Domestic Violence / Intimate Partner Violence and I needed feedback on what you would consider good arguements or points to disclose in an research paper. Also what would solutions to be discussed in a research paper on domestic violence. I really need your help and will appreciate it. Thanks.

Are you going to focus on only one area of domestic violence – partner violence – or are you going to try to cover violence against children as well?

There is such a wealth of information/statistics on child abuse that I think you could do a whole research paper on that part of the topic alone.

For example: violence begetting violence. How many abused children go on to become abusers themselves … and what TYPES of abuse are perpetuated? Physical? Emotional? Sexual?

Secondly, of the types of abuse a child can suffer, which has the worst long-term effects? Use some statistics to support your position.

Third how does alcohol abuse factor into physical, emotional or sexual abuse – if at all. Again, there should be a wealth of statistics available to support you position.

Finally, how is abuse viewed worldwide compared to in the U.S.?

I think if you answer all these questions thoroughly, you will have more than enough information for a research paper. In fact, you may have TOO MUCH information and might want to narrow your focus even further.

Men commit far more violence against women than the other way around. Men are far physically stronger than women. A hit from a woman can barely cause any damage while a hit from a man could seriously hurt a woman. That’s why that whole "don’t hit girls" thing came from and that’s why man on woman violence is taken more seriously than woman on man violence. Its really not that hard to figure out.

women engage in domestic violence about the same rate as men. women initiate or incite violence at a far greater rate than men. lesbian couples have much higher domestic violence rates than either straight hetero couples or gay men couples.

there is a huge double standard on this topic that should be debunked. if a guy is a total jerk, an abusive, insulting, nagging, bickering, argumentative, alcholic, combative, etc.. and behaves that way around other guys… it is fairly certain he will get his butt kicked eventually.. in fact, most guys learn this lesson in childhood, and don’t behave that way as adults.. unless they are puke drunk, which is why puke drunk guys often get thier butts kicked..

when a woman is a total jerk, an abusive, insulting, nagging, bickering, argumentative, alcholic, combative, etc…. she automatically is a poor victem of domestic violence by some terrible man???

after the disgusting experience of encountering abusive, stinking, loudmouth feminists… I am amazed that these women are still alive, that they have gone thru life with this attitude and have not come across someone who can not restrain themself under thier abusive combative attacks.. or that they don’t get thier butt kicked regularly.. it really is not logical that they even exist..

yeah, I learned about the ‘don’t hit girls’ thing as a child, but when I became a man, I put away my childish things…

this is what I learned from feminists. now I laugh at it when I see in on TV, and I now truely clearly understand why many women get beaten, .. mostly because they caused it.

yeah, I am surprised, mostly surprised that few people have the balls to tell the truth about domestic violence..

"We have planned for the march to be women-only for a number of reasons:
Firstly, because it’s being held on International Women’s Day…
Secondly… There will be women and children on the march who have been assaulted and abused and who may be afraid of men…
Thirdly, women have been socially, culturally and economically conditioned to defer to men, to take our lead from men, to behave in ways approved of by men…

If you’re a man reading this, there are lots of ways in which you can show your support. You can stand on the pavements and cheer us on, you can babysit the kids… ask your football team to hold a two minute silence, you can make a financial donation"
http://millionwomenrise.com/millionwomenrise_womenonly.html
Edit
Obviously I am quoting from the website that is promoting the protest (see link)
Yes, there is plenty of very good evidence of widespread domestic violence by women against men, but feminists have gone to extremes to cover it up, including bomb threats http://www.law.fsu.edu/journals/lawreview/downloads/304/kelly.pdf
"One of the researchers to whom you often refer constantly adds the disclaimer: that women are still more likely to be seriously injured or killed by their abuser". I almost feel sorry for the feminists that their arguments are so feeble! What you say is not in the least a disclaimer, it is a simple fact that men are generally stronger than women, therefore are more likely to hurt a woman if they lash out. Nobody disputes this. Another ‘disclaimer’ by the same author is that injuries are equal when a weapon is involved.

Oh, and feminists? Some of us don’t think you need to have a mass rally in order to make a point or show that you are serious about an issue. Of course this sort of thing was very popular in Nuernberg at one point, and maybe if you all shout slogans together loud enough you will feel as if you are going to improve the world by highlighting just how evil men are. Have a nice day, ladies.

>>>There will be women and children on the march who have been assaulted and abused and who may be afraid of men…

If you’re a man reading this … You can stand on the pavements and cheer us on, <<<

Translation: men who are walking are scary to women who have been abused. But men who are standing still are not.

Sorry, ladies, but that is totally silly.

And the financial-donation idea REALLY cracks me up!

"We’re not going to let you march. We’re going to practice discrimination against you on the basis that you have a penis. But we will GLADLY take your money!"

It’s bad enough that these people are engaging in a symbolism-over-substance march that will do NOTHING to prevent domestic violence.

But it’s even worse when they essentially say to men, "We really want your sympathy for our cause — just as long as you’re not walking too close to us."

At least in 1960s Alabama, they didn’t ask black people to donate money to build "whites only" restrooms, and then keep the black people from actually using them.

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I have made repeated reports to our county’s Child Protective Services and when my child was very young, to the Police. When she was 4 or so she would innocently tell me things her father did to her, until we took her to the police she closed her mouth. Since then, there have been many people who have suspected things and many C.P.S. calls. EVERY single time, I have been told that she was "too young to be a credible witness" and blown off. I left this man when our child was under 1 year. I left because he was extremely abusive of me. But, because he did not abuse her (a newborn at that time) YET, the state of California, and this county, allow him to share custody with me. I filed for a restraining order when I left him, as a teenager. He found out, before I finished the process, and beat me to it, making up lies to get one against ME, his victim. I, being so young, had no idea what I was about to do…but I told him I didn’t care and that if him and his wife got one against ME, then that would STILL mean that they would have to stay away from me, so why would I dispute it? So, I didn’t object. How I wish I’d have had a lawyer. Since then the courts have referred to the man who committed repeated aggressive partner rape on me, as MY VICTIM and have bent to his every whim. My child accused him of molest, they told me she was too little to be credible. My child showed up repeatedly to preschool from his home behaving "oddly" with unexplained bruises shaped like a hand on her bottom etc (the school’s words) and still….she was too young to be credible and the father and his nearly equally abusive wife "denied" it. Oh…okay..case closed. Since then (here we sit 9 years from leaving him) I have had to, on court’s orders, Co Parent with this man, treat him kindly and "only speak positively" or I’d be in contempt. I have shoved my abuse history into what apparently turned out to be a time bomb inside me, and I now have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder form this. My child tells me on a regular basis that she is afraid of her father and his wife, but she will not speak to CPS because when they talk to her they talk to her AT THEIR house with the wife sitting within hearing range! She has told me they have threatened her into not telling me "their business" anymore but luckily she still burst into tears and told me what was going on instead of letting them control her this way. She has begged me to stop them. I call CPS over and over, and they half ass-ed go out there and ask a couple questions and leave (only going to their house up to a week after I call, casually calling ahead to let them know they are coming). WHAT DO I DO!? I finally lost it in mediation the other day when he sat laughing at me while the mediator referred to him as the "victim" telling me since I was NOT the victim here, I could not request separate mediation which is the Victim’s Right. I am a trained volunteer, also, with the Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Coalition in our county now. I want to be the voice for my 10 year old daughter, and we are being stifled. What can I do? He is not bruising her…as far as I know there is no proof now (unless the molest she accused him of when she was 4 or so is occurring lord forbid or else…). I am about to lose it. I want to scoop up my child (and my other 3 children and husband I have now) and run away since no one will legally help us! Thursday evening was the most recent time (she’s been at his house since, because he has every weekend with her) she told me "Because I am afraid of him". They keep telling me that because there are no marks, she is "within the law". She tells me she wants to talk to mediators (which I have now requested) but she still feels afraid of her father finding out what she said and asks me regularly if someone is going to tell him. So, I am concerned that she may still hold back at court once she sees that he IS there (even though not in the room). I am preparing her as much as possible and as much as legally allowed without accidentally leading her in any way. Which, I’m sure he is doing his own preparing there as well. Does anyone have any advice or suggestions??? I have no money, by the way. My husband recently got fired and so we are nearing bankruptcy so have never been able to afford a lawyer unfortunately. I know I need one. He has also turned CPS into a little game, since I had called for valid reasons on him, now when I "piss him off" he calls and tells them untrue things; every time they have come out they have declared it unfounded after about 5 minutes of being here and have now red flagged my file as possibly malicious fraud calls (which apparently is not illegal yet in this county or state yet! especially because the calls can be anonymous even though they are quoting what he just screamed at me the day before). So, I assume he has successfully turned my child’s safety net into a game.

easy. next time she is there have her call the police. get her a cell phone if possible. then when she is alone tell her to call the police and report it

I beleive it IS a hidden plague within society, women who beleive its ok to attack a man on the basis as its safe to do so because his a man he cant hit you back !

On a radio programme last night some Doctor a Phd said the incidence was often hidden but just as prevalent. Yet the Government fund the Anti Violence against womens adds with $M’s every year. In Australia they constantly run the "Violence against Women ! Australia says NO" campaigns yet laugh at a man who reports an attack to Police !

Why do women beleive that because their the overly emotional physically weaker sex that gives them the right to attack a man without fear of reprisal ? I’ve heard stories about women throwing knifes and a hot iron at a man for not getting their own way and wanting to treat a man like a puppet !
Lindsay lowhan, the reason for this may well be that even so called "wussy" men do infact hold back, but really any man can only take so much than the abusive women may end up needing reconstructive surgery from a single retalitory blow ! I’m just trying to raise awareness of this almost suicidal practise some women engage in !

sorry but its not a level playing field and yes I get totally pi*sed of with those ads as they are all one sided … especially when they say its never the females fault … what a load of crap …. and we will never get the same funding or attention to male issues .. simply because we are men … and remember it almost illegal to be a man anymore !!

I am a supervisor at a tutoring center at an elementary school. One of my tutors (who is a very sweet 25 year old, with a 4 year old daughter, living with her boyfriend who is not the baby’s dad) has been showing up to tutor with the purple eye and bruised up chin and cheeks, and today I noticed there were more bruises and darker as well. I do not know the boyfriend at all or anything else about this girl. She does keep a smiley face on and still very kind and patient with the kids she tutors so there is no behavioral sign of abuse. However, face and arm bruises don’t just appear. She usually gets picked up by her boy friend but today and yesterday she asked a coworker to give her ride back. I did notice an upsetting chat with her boyfriend before she left yesterday, probably refusing to pick her up.
I talked to my manager and she said that this girl is an adult, if she is not willing to talk about it or ask for help we cannot help her. That sounds wrong, there’s gotta be a way …

Dixie, as a supervisor who works at a tutoring center as well, I ask you to first save the child. She is the most vulnerable. Find where the child goes to school in a conversation with the mother. Just saying "hey so what does your child do? You seem like a very patient person is she home-schooled?" Stuff like that. Then as soon as you find out about any off-home activities that the daughter does, report to that place anonymously and have the administrative to keep a close look on her. If they notice the slightest thing the child needs to be kept out of that place. By helping the child you are helping the mother because for whatever reason she is not reporting it, she will after the child is saved.
I suggest you personally do not give her a clue that you have even noticed the bruises getting worse. If you need more help let me know. I live in Arizona and we deal with situations like this and students like these on daily basis. simply send an email to this address. Thanks and best of luck

Don’t you know shariah can’t be applied to non-Muslims? I live in Dubai and our laws are sharia based.

Non- Muslims, there are mostly the Hindus and Christians, are free to practice their religions.
We don’t punish non- Muslims for fornication or sleeping around, but if a Muslim person is caught doing the same he is jailed for 6 months.
We don’t punish non- Muslims for drinking in their homes or at bars, but drinking in public is an offence.
We don’t behead infidels living here, because the Quran says, the punishment for murder is death.
We don’t blow up their religious centers and places.
We don’t beat our wives up, as the Quran says so, because there are severe laws against domestic violence.
We don’t force any one to wear hijab or niqab. There are thousands of western women who wear bikini on beaches and short skirts in offices

Don’t tell about what Saudis, somalians and afghans are doing in their homeland. It concerns neither you nor me, at a close personal level. I accept that there are also bad and evil muslims.

that’s because they come up with their own conclusions based on a few bad muslims, instead of asking the majority of people. i live in the uk and think that it would be a good idea to have sharia law for the muslims but in no way would i impose it on non muslims.

I’m writing this story where this girls goes to a party (drinking underage) and then gets raped. If she would charge the guy with rape, would she get in trouble too for underage drinking?

In starting out writing you should write about things you know….and can communicate in a better way. In doing things you undertsand and know you gain more insight into how you write and how to accomplish what you want.

Later when you get more experience you will learn about research and how to do that by calling on those that have answers.

But seriously…any writer will tell you…when you start out and are just learning…you should ALWAY start with things you KNOW about …..just to develop your own style and methods. You are less likely to trip up and are able to connect the little stories and weave your story into something more interesting.

DISCLAIMER: All the pictures in this video are mine. The music in NOT mine!

Thank you Auraclaritykat and Mastertubaman for voice acting in this video. I’m sure I’ll get a good mark!

The grade I got: 98%

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EXCERPT FROM JUNE 21, 2007 NEWS: The public should give three newly promoted Pittsburgh police officers a chance despite the officers’ histories of domestic abuse, Deputy Police Chief Paul Donaldson said yesterday… Cmdr. Catherine McNeilly took the opposite stance, that promotions should be postponed for officers with pending criminal cases or domestic problems that rise to the level of police being called…

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